Purposeful And Consistent
When I got started with the idea of writing down my thoughts about balancing my ambitions and personal life and sharing them publicly, I didn’t realize just how deep I could go. I have been finding myself diving into new ways of thinking, building healthy habits, and creating avenues. But as I grew to be more knowledgeable, confident, risk taking, and pliable, the more my life was becoming suffocated, rushed, and absent. This was a worrisome and utterly draining lifestyle and I just couldn’t understand why. Until I coined a very vital, exciting, and perspective shifting proposition. Balancing a work life that brings success, gratification, and stability with the demands of daily life—will always require intentional effort, solidified habits, and the ability to lead with purpose both professionally and personally.
Let me try the best that I can to relate this process to my personal life and my professional life. If you didn’t know already, I am a professional at increasing the value of jets, sports cars, boats, and bikes. Really, I am a professional licensed mobile detailer but because my previous statement about bringing value to my customers land, air, and watercrafts is also absolutely right! Not only that, it’s much more playful and humorous so why not?
Auto care—and really, any hands-on professional service—demands more than most people realize.. It has to be something you prioritize. I had a mentor one time tell me, “your business is your baby”. At first when I heard this I sort of chuckled because I didn’t have a ton of experience with baby life just yet. My first son Asher was only about 3 months old at the time. Now that my baby’s about to be one year old, I totally get what he meant by it. I spend hours on end making sure that my baby, my little amazing boy Asher, is well taken care of and at the top of my mind most of the minutes in my days. When thinking of how I am with him and then relating it to what my mentor said about my business, I now understand why he made that comment.
Each morning, I walk to the basketball court with my son—my little teammate. I call him that for a reason, but more on that another day. I shoot hoops for about 25 minutes before I do the second half of my daily morning walk. I’m taking each shot from the free throw line, then moving back to the three-point arc, gradually moving back farther, testing every angle I can for a maximized chance to get better at a skill I have always wanted to improve on.
During this small personal challenge I’m doing for myself, I can’t help but look over at my son every few shots just to see if my little guy is watching me take every single shot. He is absolutely locked in on every single movement I’m making. The facial expressions, things I’m saying as I’m talking to a client through my airpods, the breaks I take to catch a breath or two. It got me thinking how lucky I am, first off, to have such an amazing kid. But secondly, how everything I do has the potential to bring not only value to his life but to embed healthy patterns daily. Here’s a nerdy tidbit of information for you.
There is a part of our brain called the hippocampi which came from the Greek words horse and seamonster AKA seahorse. According to Namitha Prabhu’s post on April 7th 2023 titled: 6 interesting facts about the hippocampus, “hippocampi (there are 2) regulate emotions, dreaming, imagining, and, most importantly, forming memories. Without it, we would be left with just some short-term memories and an overwhelming sense of amnesia” which is why when I say everything I do has the potential to bring not only value to his life but to embed healthy patterns daily, it is proven to be true. Direction and consistency will guide how his knowledge is applied and what actions become a result to the consequence.
I think this easily ties in to how I run my mobile detailing company. The way that I’m correlating these two things is simply this. Asher is watching every single move that I make and every single move that I make has to be intentional and with purpose so that once he gets older and once he grows, he will be set up for success. The rest is on him. Now with my business, I have to be intentional and I have to have purpose with how I’m running it so that as it grows, it’s set up for success and is purely automated and the rest is on the business. Now, obviously, if things were to get out of hand or things needed to be changed, I would suggest those changes just as I would with my little boy.
If any of this feels abstract right now, don’t worry—I plan to break down each component in future reflections. I am confident that the more you follow along with the intention to learn and the desire to bring more purpose to your life, the easier it will get. As we now know, the proof is in the consistency. I’m not a monster though, I understand we covered a lot in this first part so here is a refresher on my proposal. Balancing a work life that brings success, gratification, and stability with the demands of daily life—will always require intentional effort, solidified habits, and the ability to lead with purpose both professionally and personally. The next time we talk, be prepared to apply what you have learned in this opening chapter of my daily momentums. Purpose is a choice. Consistency is a habit. Together, they’ll shape everything that matters. You only make it as far as the effort you put in.